Thursday, December 20, 2012

Barry Gallup - So Sad

From Mark Blaudschun

It was one of those days at Boston College when nothing was happening and then everything was happening. New BC football coach Steve Addazio was in the process of finalizing the process of hiring his two new coordinators, Ryan Day on offense, which wasn’t a surprise and Don Brown, on defense, which was a surprise.

At the same time new BC Director of Athletics Brad Bates was wrapping up the details of adding New Mexico State as the Eagles final non-conference opponent for 2013.All Categories
Routine stuff, but enough to keep you focused away from the real world events such as the horrific events last Friday in Newtown, Ct.

And then there came a simple tweet from Boston College Associate Athletic Director of Media Relations Chris Cameron. “”Lisa Gallup passed away.”

I didn’t really know Lisa Gallup, but I know her father Barry Gallup, BC’s Associate Athletic Director of football operations. I have known him for 26 years, ever since I came to Boston in 1987.

I knew him when he was an assistant football coach at BC. I knew him when he was the football coach at Northeastern as well as the Athletic Director. I knew him when he came back to his alma mater BC as the director of football operations.

No one had more passion for BC than Gallup.  If you didn’t like Barry Gallup, something was wrong with you.

I also knew Barry Gallup in 2003 when his oldest son Darren was killed in an automobile accident.  Darren was  18  years old and the Gallup family: Barry, Darren’s younger brother Barry and his Lisa grieved as the family  tried to understand the meaning of it.

Darren was the oldest, born in 1984. Lisa arrived next and then came Barry Jr. All three children were athletes, all had inspirations to attack life with a passion they received from their parents.

But then suddenly, on an icy February night, Darren was gone.

“What kind of God takes a child away from a parent?”. was a question  Vickie Gallup asked after taking some comfort that her son was in God’s hands.

The same question could  again be asked  tonight as the Gallup family absorbs the shock of the death of Lisa, after a long bout with cancer.

No parent should ever have to bury his or her child. Now Barry and Vickie have to do it again.

Barry was in New York City on Monday, working on arrangements to take his daughter home where she would receive hospice care in her final days. She never made it.

Gallup was talking to a friend a few days ago, who asked about Lisa’s condition. As usually was the case with  Barry, he was non-committal about his personal life and problems and concerns, but always positive.

Now he offered his friend some advice as he left.

“When you go home, make sure you hug your daughter, “Gallup told his friend.

It has been said that many times that life can be unfair and in the past five days we have seen way too much of that.

We see it as we see BC assistant athletic director Dick Kelly battle the effects of Lou Gehrig’s disease with dignity and a positive attitude.

Life CAN  be unfair and the people at BC and in Newtown are experiencing that now.

And that, quite frankly, sucks.

1 comment:

  1. Thanks for sharing this Prof Taylor. I don't know the Gallups but pray for their family and am amazed at their strength.